one simple question that will turn me off

“Are you masculine?”

Fuck you. Get a spine. Say what you goddamn well mean, and don’t couch it in some deliberately vague codespeak. And when I call you on your bullshit, offer a better definition of what you mean by “masculine” than “doesn’t act like a girl.” A more straightforward definition might be “‘acts like’ or ‘has characteristics related to being’ ‘a man’ instead of defining yourself by not being a girl, or, more accurately, a flamer.

What you mean is “You’re not a flamer, right?” Jesus, this question makes me want to knee people in the nads.

“Masculine” is almost worse than “straight acting” in my book.

Maybe a positive definition of the word would be “proactive, protective, encouraging, direct, decisive, self-confident, doesn’t concern themselves over whether or not some asshat on the internet considers them masculine (okay, that was a negative definition, I admit it).” And maybe I fail on that definition. But that’s not the definition they care about. Even if it is a damn sight better than the definition they use.