So, I was chatting with this kid. He’s pretty internally conflicted between being gay and devoutly religious. Was chatting with him as I was getting ready to go to the Students for A Non-religious Ethos thing on tuesday (the under god in the pledge thing), and I mentioned it to him, and he was all “I’ll pray for you” and I was all “And I hope you come to a reasonable set of assumptions about the universe” and he was all “I’m going to eat some cruelly slaughtered animal product” and I left.
Yesterday, I try to start chatting with him, and he’s generally anti-social, I try to figure out what it is, and he turns into a raging asshole. Saying things like I should leave America, I don’t care at all about my country, I have no beliefs, blah, blah, blah. The kid has alot of self-hatred going on, and apparently decided I was the incarnation of everything he didn’t like about himself. (He had earlier expressed that he felt that the choice between his sexuality and his religion was an either/or thing).
So I told him if he wanted me to leave him alone, that’s all he had to say. He said yes, with some pretty nasty comments on the side, I wished him the best, to which he replied “I don’t have the same wish for you :-)”. I then removed him from my contact list, etc.
And the strange thing is, I actually worry about him. Hope he grows up at some point. <shrug>
You get older and these things happen.
I find myself wishing that assholes would turn into human beings more often, too. And not just in the “get a life, idiot!” sense.
You know….
I know you are going to hate to hear this, but……. there might be a reason some people don’t interact in the real world and just over IRC or whatever. I’m not nearly saying all (heck i met radi0actv online, and you because of it), but there is probably a higher probability of meeting maladjusted individuals online.
Re: You know….
Oh, definitely true. I tried dating people from online briefly and let me tell you…. boy did i turn out to be maladjusted as fuck. 😉
You can’t save them all, Stephen. As my favorite quote from the Bible says, “There will be poor among you always…” For being the savior of all mankind, Jesus said the oddest things. 🙂 The kid’s obviously maladjusted, immature, and hardly worth your time since he’s clearly found the meaning of it all—life, love, the whole shebang. He alone, out of all humanity, has managed to solve the great mysteries of the universe. And at such a young age, too!
Your mothering instinct does you credit, Stephen. Just remember there are children out there even a mother couldn’t love. 🙂 There will always be such children, and the healthiest pespective you can take is to forget about the impossible cases and focus on those individuals who can actually benefit from your positive influence.
Frankly, I don’t let the existence of a few assholes ruin my faith in humanity as a whole. In general, I’d argue, people are neither excessively evil nor excessively good; most just muddle through life practicing some strange amalgam of generosity, selfishness, and indifference.
Frankly, I don’t let the existence of a few assholes ruin my faith in humanity as a whole. In general, I’d argue, people are neither excessively evil nor excessively good; most just muddle through life practicing some strange amalgam of generosity, selfishness, and indifference.
I don’t believe I’ve ever seen that said so eloquently. I’ll add a twist to that. Assholes exist for balance:)
Hehe, For what its worth, I did sign up for the “college republicans” freshman year.
If he’s “found an answer” that works for him, then that’s what he’s found. If not, he’ll eventually move to a new gameplan. Maybe you’ll run into him in the future, maybe you wont (won’t?). In any case, trust me, it’s not worth subjecting yourself to those kinds of comments for any extended period of time. Heh… for all the impersonality of the internet, that still qualifies as an abusive relationship. And that’s a no no. Take care of yourself.