Roommates as family

My manager made the observation during my internship that I seem to “use” roommates to fill the emotional niche of a romantic partner. I can see where he’s coming from, but I felt like he got something wrong at the time. I didn’t really figure out what it was until recently. I think I treat my roommates more like siblings. And some of my favorite roommates were like the brothers I never had. Minus the fraternal violence and embarrassment. No offense to or implied. To others, it may be more like a business transaction. And that disparity makes me sad at times. But a mad shout out to my peeps. If you don’t know who you are, you should. 😉

6 thoughts on “Roommates as family”

  1. I’d rather have roommates around, than not.

    I can afford the place by myself but I get really fucking lonely.

    If that means I’m keeping people around just to fill my need for companionship, so be it.

    Is it any better or worse than having them around just because I need help with the rent?

    And so yes, I treat them like family. I wouldn’t take anyone in as a roommate that I didnt feel a connection to, that I couldnt be a close friend with, etc.

    I dont have a romantic partner, or a void where one might go. And in any case, its unhealthy for you to have a romantic partner because of codependency anyway .. splitting the rent or the bills or whatever if you need to do that. I think if you have a need for assistance with that, its all the better that its with roommates … say, instead of a lover. Right?

  2. I sometimes try to figure out my relationship with my roommate. He’s become a very close friend, and sometimes, there’s a wierd line where I don’t know if it feels like we’re family or if it feels like we’re in a (sexless) relationship.

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