There are two particular recommendations that
Bujold, Lois McMaster and Butler, Octavia in particular.
Bujold’s worlds seem more static to me somehow. But between some amazing dialogue and brilliant characterizations (eat your heart out, Asimov) they do get me thinking about how the world is. And how I fit into it. So, I share with you a brief thought of a character in a car, explaining her recent college experiences to her family. The part that really struck home is emphasized:
Kareen and Mark had come close to having their first real argument over this dubious choice of his, but it was, Kareen recognized, indeed his choice. Body-control issues lay near the core of his deepest troubles; she was developing an instinct–if she didn’t flatter herself, close to a real understanding–of when she could push for his good. and when she just had to wait, and let Mark wrestle with Mrak. It had been a shomewhat terrifying privilege to watch and listen, this past year, as his therapist coached him; and an exhilarating experence to participate, under the therapist’s supervision, in the partial healing he was achieving. And to learn there were more important aspects to love than a mad rush for connection: confidentiality, for one. Patience for another. And, paradoxically and most urgently in Mark’s case, a certain cool and distant autonomy. It had taken her months to figure that one out. She wasn’t about to try to explain it to her noisy, teasing, loving family the back of a groundcar.