Well, to pre-empt poll thievery I paid for my lj account. All so I can bring you, my loyal readers, this very important poll.
Getting a word in edgewise
Well, to pre-empt poll thievery I paid for my lj account. All so I can bring you, my loyal readers, this very important poll.
technically, my response to the first question is somewhere between the 2nd and 3rd option: cuddling is ok before sleeping, but once asleep, stay on your side of the bed, dammit!
It does depend on the weather and the person’s build; there are people I’ve cuddled all night, and others I’ve needed to stop cuddling before I fall asleep, usually because our builds don’t allow for an all-night cuddle without serious cramp!
In that case I like to sleep back to back or back to side.
Cuddling is very very good. However, I can’t cuddle all night. I am a heat sucker. I suck away a person’s body heat, thus becoming overheated myself. ;P
There’s the occasional roll back over to snuggie throughout the night, but then it dissapates once more as I gravitate back to my side of the bed. ;P Especially if I get overheated.
tobin and i are the opposite. he’s usually cold, and i put out heat like the sun, ALL THE TIME.
so it kind of balances out, but i can usually not use covers or ‘cuddle’ for too long. but anyway, once i’m asleep, i prefer being on my stomach anyway, and that’s not really ideal for cuddling. LOL.
you’re just hawt. That’s why we have global warming. LOL
I agree with previous comment about weather and person. I tend to exude mass amounts of heat – something that’s only a recent development – and so cuddling me all night can lead to minor discomfort 🙂
I definitely like falling alseep whils tbeing held/sleeping on someone’s shoulder. I also tend to moe my foot over in the middle of the night to make physical contact even when my partner and I aren’t cuddling. This has lead to me waking up diagonal on the bed on more than a few occasions when I sleep alone…
I suspect that I couldn’t date someone who absolutely did not want to be in contact in bed as we were falling alseep. I am too much of a touch-slut for that to really work…
Stay on your own damn side when I’m trying to sleep. It’s a queen size bed for god’s sake, move!
I knew you were going to say that.
Am I that predictable? We’re coming up on the humid season so I’ve already switched to Linen sheets.
Honestly it depends on the person I’m sleeping with. While I generally prefer to cuddle beforehand and then retreat to my side of the bed for sleep, there have been exceptions to that ‘rule’. Some people are comfy and don’t produce too much heat so it’s pleasant to be against them all night long. My partner however is a furnace and while he barely has a belly, it has no give and it makes my back uncomfortable so I retreat to my side to sleep.
WOW, Dirigibles And I Would be A Total Match!!! Maybe I Should Look Him Up!!
Your poll is wholly imperfect, as I would behave differently with a boyfriend than with someone else who was staying the night (even a someone else that I was having sex with and felt intimate toward).
My poll is streamlined for easy administration. If you would like to write your own “superior” poll, you are welcome to do so. =)
I don’t mean to say that you should ask both questions — I mean that you are vague about which question you are asking. Unless you want unclear results, you should ask clear questions. : )
Sure, someone might also behave differently while sick, or annoyed with their significant other. It’s not intended to capture all potential facets or variations. Note I didn’t even specify that it be a sexual situation. I’m content with the imprecisions in my instrument. =)
Well, my answer would be very different if I were sleeping with a member of my family, for exammple. Or a homeless person, though that is much less likely. TOO VAGUE, I tell you!!!
Did you hear that cat just scream?! 🙂
I usually start out cuddling and end up on the other side of the bed. I tend to roll over and move around a lot while sleeping.
my answer changes based on how long into the relationship or friendship it is. at the beginning, usually snuggling all the way through is cool, but normally, to get to sleep, I need to be super comfy, and snuggling can cause sweat action. not cool. usually by morning, your body has fully adjusted to the temperature, and snuggling while half asleep in the morning fucking rocks.
Very interesting results…. which journal are the findings going to be posted in?
Why the one the poll was taken in, of course.
Oh, here I thought you were gonna put it in a scholarly journal.
Hm. Although I do appreciate my space while sleeping, I have been known to sleep back to back with the Beloved, or sneak my leg next to his … touching, but not getting tangled. (Having a spacious bed — something that as I recall has been utterly lacking in my previous relationships — helps with the separate-but-touching thing. If there’s barely enough room for both, you might as well cuddle. *g*)
Great poll… I feel safe and justified since I responded the same as the majority.
Damn, this is one of those issues that is way more complicated then the poll results allow me to put.
Short answer: It depends what the heater is set at and how many blankets there are.
Speaking of which, I should surreptitiously turn the heater off tonight.
I can’t sleep if I’m making full-body contact with someone, even though I enjoy it. If it’s just an arm or a leg, I’m fine, but being such a light sleeper, I prefer to end a night of cuddling on my own side of the bed so that I’m not sleep-deprived in the morning.
I’m a cuddle slut, but cuddling while sleeping really depends on the person and other details of the moment. I generally sleep very poorly with someone else, so I can really only cuddle while trying to sleep with someone I am dating, ie, very comfortable around them. Other bedmates need to stay on their side for the most part. Then, of course, if there is lots of skin, it depends on how clean we are, since recently showered skin-on-skin feels soft, and non-recently-showered skin-on-skin will get sticky fairly quickly.