It’s hard being an upper middle class white male with an excess endowment of congenital brains…
I’m feeling lonely. Not single lonely, more hanging around home alone lonely. I get this way rather often. The times I had the least of it were when living in big, mostly harmonious households. Wightman, Phillips, and LeRoy all come to mind.
It’s worth noting that the only things I’ve had that I’d really call romantic relationships happened when I had a healthy reserve of social capital built up with a few groups. The APhiO crowd during my coming out relationship with Steve. cmuOUT, le chateau de
There is something to be said for putting down roots, but the question in my mind is where? What soil will help me grow best into who and what I want to be? I don’t think it’ll be here. I need some place where I can move. Between the extreme cold of winter and the limited options for long distance travel, I’m not terribly mobile here. Chicago still seems like the best option to me for long term residence. Not as outrageously expensive as san fran, more mobile than any place else I’ve ever been (SF proper and Manhattan beat it, but pricetag and limited scope leave me less thrilled about them as places of residence, not to mention their extremities of coast). Some significant social capital already there for me. Now that I have a better grasp on myself, I think I could make a much better go of it.
*hugs* I do know the feeling. I also gt it from a different angle – being !single and not seeing friends makes me lonely.
also, is megadick an autobot or a decepticon?
more an immature angstitron.
I am married and I know what you mean. I am currently missing all of my friends. I know in my case it is because it is winter and it seems that all of my friends hibernate during this season.
There’s a definite advantage to sharing living quarters with friends in this regard. =) Though that doesn’t exactly exist comfortably with the American dream of a marriage, one’s own house, and 2.2 kids, in that order 😉
locations
I’m fond of the east coast, DC in particular (surprise, surprise). I’ve also considered Baltimore and especially Philadelphia to lower the cost while still allowing for high mobility. On the upside, both of those cities are some ways so screwed up that they need a continual stream of policy wonks! (DC is normally in that category to, but it’s been close to sane for the past 3 years or so, sports team fixations excepted).
Re: locations
I don’t know what it was about the east coast, but I didn’t really like it there, at least, not as a place to live. Then again, the closest I’ve lived is Pittsburgh, so I’m ill-equipped to judge.
But I don’t think I need to sample everything to pick one. I sure hope not, anwyay 😉
I ask many of the same questions of myself — where do I want to be and where do I feel comfortable? Of the places I’ve lived, Minneapolis is by far the most difficult for me to develop a circle of friends, but I can’t figure out exactly why.
Speaking of friends, I’ve added you to my friends list. I’ve read your journal for a while, but I’m always shy about adding people. I don’t want to be perceived as some aging lurking stalker, I guess. But since I see you mention APhiO, I guess I can go ahead and add; we all know there aren’t stalkers in APO, right? (I was heavily active in APO for a dozen years or so, and still tangentially involved.)
Heh, welcome to the journal, hope you enjoy the read.