to keep in mind, what we want v what we want to be

A long time ago, when talking with it somehow came up that from time to time she had difficulty determining whether her attraction to a person was admiration, a desire to be like that person, or attraction, a desire to have sex with that person. I know that applies to me more often than I think is good. All those beefy guys with the hot bodies. Maybe if I spent more time at the gym, and less time drooling over them….

I’ve noticed that the more I workout, the more my desire for what I want to be, and what I actually am converge. But given its rapidity, it’s got to be due to the mutability of desire. And a general increase in self-acceptance so long as I’m working out. Perhaps it’s part of Dean Ornish’s maxim to love one’s body more as a functional unit, than an aesthetic one.