The past couple weeks

Monday last week I met went to the intern thing and met Dante. Was it on tuesday that , and I watched “Latter Days”? Oh, speaking of, “earnest”. In one of the most detailed, and “behind the scenes” reviews, they were describing mormon boy as the embodiment of earnest. And I realized that’s a major part of my identification with him. You don’t have to scratch my sarcastic surface too deeply to see the unalloyedly earnest lad I was in my youth. It probably fits me better than “mercurial” though both fit me better, just describing different facets. Anyway. Done with that.

Wednesday, my first game of Twilight Imperium ever. It really is MoO2 the board game. It was fun. I got to play the techie race. Woo. Of course, the techie race blows for combat, but enh.

Saturday I met for the first time. I was surprised by his non-whiny-bitch-ness.

Monday, made dinner. I met his brother and his brother’s bf. We had seitan, and soy cheese lasagna. It was good.

Tuesday I got my stellar performance review and saw my supervisor for the last time. In the evening I got my FFX data files off ‘s ps2. In both the supervisor and christian farewell, I was staring at a screen while the goodbye was halfway through. Kinda weird that. Distracting myself from imminent departure?

Wednesday, it was back to the burbs, where we played twilight imperium again, and I took ‘s poorly defended homeworld (haha!). Work was hardcore that day, no distractions, just plowing through.

Thursday, another hardcore work day. Indian with my peers for lunch. I haven’t read the nytimes website in a very long time now. Heh. After work I met up with for Chicago Diner dinner. Then off to the apt of Matt-my-8th-grade crush, a flight attendant, formerly for united, now for southwest, who now lives with his bf in boystown. Matt, Ross, and I went out to Roscoe’s where we met up with Ross’s friend ted. I had a couple drinks. We chatted. Matt introduced us to various friends of his including a good looking drag queen (in & out of drag). Ross hit on two complete strangers, including one whose hand found its way into Ross pants at the bar. We went back to Matt’s place sans strangers, where I met his friend Spiker. I went home. I hear fun was had post my departure.

Friday was a day off. Whee.

Identifying bad habits v emergencies

Awhile ago, posted something about the failure of the housing bubble to burst, and how many people, including himself, me, and arguably, krugman, have been warning of imminent doom that seems unlikely given a number of positive indicators for the economy.

There is a vast gulf between “This is a terrible idea, we shouldn’t be doing it,” and “bad things are going to happen soon.” Unfortunately, the first one isn’t the most marketable message. And so it’s very easy to slide into the latter, because nobody pays attention to the former. It’s the difference between “Smoking increases your risk of lung cancer, heart disease, and asthma, while also generally decreasing lung performance,” and “Smoking’s gonna kill you”. The accuracy of the first one is uncontested, but the second is much more gripping.

The truth is one of my grandfathers lived into his 90’s while smoking and drinking fairly regularly, as I understand it. I wasn’t terribly close to him, so I’m fuzzy on the details. Pointing to a man who died in his 90’s and saying “see, it was the pipe that did him in” isn’t terribly scary to a smoking teenager.

But just because the bubble hasn’t burst, and my grandfather lasted as long as he did does not mean that the practices in question aren’t bad ideas, and don’t increase our risk of catastrophe, personal or economic. But how to convey this risk in a fashion that people will understand before the sky does fall (as happens occasionally) is a tricky question. Maybe they do understand, and are fine with that, but somehow I doubt if a catastrophe does come to pass, they will accept the consequences with the same quiet equanimity that they indulged in their risk.

Upcoming events

This weekend I’m hosting . Don’t let his lj fool you, he’s actually a) low maintenance and b) a great guy.

Plans

  • Today:
    • Gymage
    • Hanging out with , , , and downtown.
    • Bar trip to Charlie’s with hot gay guy in office, his bf & friends, and .
  • Tomorrow:
    • Skating along the lakefront w/
    • Byebye
  • Monday:
    • Finish packing & shipping the last little bits
  • Tuesday:
    • Fly to San Fran (well, oakland, but I go directly to the castro).
    • Drop bags off with Jason, ‘s bf. Probably chat with him for what would really be the first time ever.
    • Grab dinner with , , , , and significant others at Axum.
  • Wednesday:
    • Visit GAO’s SF field office.
    • Drop bags at house on LeRoy.
    • Check out the Energy & Resource Group at berkeley for potential PhD program. (funding for the dept looks dismal).
    • Board gaming night at the oakland endgame
  • Thursday:
    • Return to the castro, drop bags w/
  • Friday:
    • replace driver’s license at nearby CA DMV.
  • Monday:
    • Return to berkeley
    • sit in on first day of classes at berkeley. Possibly ambush profs after.
  • Tuesday:
    • Fly from oakland to Austin.

Clearly there are some gaps in my schedule, and some fully booked days. Hopefully there will be less of the former, starting soon. =)

Please make them stop

Okay, so I have serious issues with this little animated flick for a planned parenthood ‘superhero’. Mostly, it’s the crudity, and the violence. The first ‘bad guy’ taken out is slammed in a trash can full of water and held in, the next set are blown up. Hello? I realize it’s supposed to be at least partially educational, which is why the crudity of the message sends my eyes rolling as well. I think planned parenthood does good work, but I think this video is mostly a masturbatory fantasy for frustrated pro-choice folks.

Pro-choice & vegan, say what?

So, in a recent entry, and in a post he made at my request describing his politics back in January (that I just happened to recently re-read) expressed bemusement at the notion of vegan/animal rights people being pro-choice. If you’re looking at it as opposing harming a life form that is presumably not up to human standards of consideration v ending a human life, the conflict here should be obvious.

Veganism is in part about not hurting the fuzzy bunnies for me. But veganism also strikes me as a moral choice to live ‘small on the land’. The calories in an ear of corn fed to me v the calories in an egg derived from a chicken fed on that ear of corn, well, it’s more ‘efficient’ in some senses to get the calories direct from the source. Let alone the meat dimension to this question. Then there’s the health considerations like lowering my risk of heart disease and colon cancer while never having to give a thought to BSE other than “must suck to be a beef eater”.

Now how does this relate to abortion? There are two dimensions here. 1) I would be much happier if every kid that came into the world was wanted and cared for, and we had no one bitching about urchins in the street. We’ve had legal abortion here for many years now in the states. This problem isn’t what it used to be. If you love orphanages and think we ought to have them overflowing with kids getting substandard care, please do raise your hand. Alternatively, if you want the necessary tax hikes to make sure that the new generation of accidental children is properly taken care of, please, do step forward. Not to mention sent off to college, because that’s a nearly necessary step to good pay and good jobs in modern, developed countries. Everything we pay to raising abandoned kids would be coming from the public pocket. With no legal abortion there will be more unwanted and abandoned kids. And I sincerely doubt that kids raised in orphanages are coming out with the same advantages as kids raised by relatives or adoptive parents with equivalent resources. So, we’re talking inefficient/low quality people production. Freakonomics, I hear, makes the argument that the recent decline in crime is a product of Roe v Wade. I haven’t read it myself, but I’d like to.

2) The life of the mother. 9 months is a pretty significant chunk out of one’s life. I hear the pain of birth is pretty substantial too (not that abortion is pain free). Birth control isn’t absolutely effective (speaking as the product of a busted condom). Rape, incest, blah, blah, blah. Look, teen pregnancy sucks. And it happens. And taking the child mother out of society’s eye so she can have her kid before getting back to life is a big opportunity cost in her life. Giving up kids for adoption, in addition to returning us to argument (1) has an effect on the mother too. Different effects for different people.

I don’t like abortion. And, obviously, it’s never been an issue for me. If I get a woman pregnant, you can be assured, it won’t be by accident. Abortion is a shitty choice to have to make. But in many cases it’s less shitty than the alternatives.

And finally, no I am not willing to accord to a zygote, embryo, or fetus the same rights accorded to an infant. We don’t treat infants the same under the law as 6 year olds, who we don’t treat the same as adolescents, who we don’t treat the same as 18 yos, 21 yos, 25 yos, 30 yos, or 35yos (and there are more distinctions, those are just the most obvious ones). I even take a historical perspective on the issue of infanticide. Humans have been practicing infanticide longer than we’ve been practicing agriculture. It’s ugly, it’s nasty, I can’t imagine doing it. But who do we think we’re kidding? This should not have shock value for us.

Heh, score one for scu’s gaydar

I walk into the library and immediately notice a hot guy sitting at a computer (out of like 100 people sitting at similar stations). As I walk past behind him, I see that he has a sean cody video playing. Score. Maybe I’ll drop my contact info on the way out. =)

[ETA: Note dropped. Also, today I’m wearing a purple shirt. How… appropriate? =)]

Simple demographics from my friends list

This is from the mutual friends category

Have seen in person several or many times 75
Met in person once or twice 39
My sisters 2
My big brothers in my fraternity 2
took to jr prom 1
lab/project partner 2
ex boyfriend 1
lived with (non related) 14
woman I’ve fooled around with (also lived with) 1
Only know from the net 61

There were a couple of other categories I thought of halfway through, that I felt it wasn’t worth going back through and sorting out: put me up in their place, fraternity brothers, and met via lj, also know from SCA.

from the “other subscribers” we have:

Have seen in person several or many times 5
Met in person once or twice 8
Straight Guy I’ve kissed (no tongue) 1
Met only via the net 32
Uncertain whether I’ve met 2

There is a straight guy on lj whom I’ve kissed with tongue, but we don’t subscribe to one another’s journals. =)

So, if I seem strangely familiar with my audience, like, perhaps, I’ve met with most of them, well, there’s a reason for that. for those with prurient interests…