I see this cute little bumper sticker every day, as I bike up the hill: “Don’t pray in my school and I won’t think in your church”. Ah, berkeley. =)<\/p>\n
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From a long chat with Shannon (and Tom) on the subject, I came away with a slightly clearer awareness of my feelings on the subject. Monogamy feels to me like it’s about control. Specifically control over your significant other. It feels like “I will break up with you if you have sex with anyone else.” Threats, ultimatums, conflict. <\/p>\n
To me a relationship is about growth, connection, affection, attachment and understanding. None of which implies exclusivity to me. Yes, managing multiple connections\/attachments is a messy business, fraught with emotional dangers. But, settling absolutely on the best-choice-available-at-the-time isn’t exactly the best plan either. Foreswearing all others, and “til death do us part” are separate issues, and I am far more gung-ho on the latter, but if I’m going to bother foreswearing all others, I feel like there ought to be some big payback for that, and I guess I don’t see it (for me, some exceptions may apply, we disclaim any warranty of guaranteed clarity of meaning, and reserve the right to change the terms of these preferences at any time without notice to the reader).<\/p>\n
Gym, work, on better terms with Ro, debt to Ro is melting away from a variety of financial whatevers. Indian buffet for lunch, followed by 1 hour nap on the office floor. Home, and adventures in email, where I learned about ssh tunneling so I could use the computer club smtp server. Chatting & plan making on phone. Bike to meetup in oakland, where I stand around being mostly decorative. Bike to gaming at endgame. Play bang, get killed before I can make my first move. Take over someone else’s hand when they have to go. Get killed again before I can do much of anything. Even the dynamite I start does nothing for the whole game. Two four player games of puerto rico, one a successful use of the factory strategy (came in second by a few points), the other a wildly unsuccessful factory\/harbor strategy (probably because I built neither factory nor harbor. Hmmm) where I came in last by several points. Bike to bart & then up the hill again. Dinner & conversations with the housemates. Yay lj.<\/p>\n
Biking through the oakland hills with Whee, eyes closing, bedtime.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I see this cute little bumper sticker every day, as I bike up the hill: “Don’t pray in my school and I won’t think in your church”. Ah, berkeley. =)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-524","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/524","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=524"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/524\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=524"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=524"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=524"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}