{"id":468,"date":"2003-05-06T08:34:00","date_gmt":"2003-05-06T13:34:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/?p=468"},"modified":"2003-05-06T08:34:00","modified_gmt":"2003-05-06T13:34:00","slug":"dating-incompatabilites-and-casual-quickies","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/?p=468","title":{"rendered":"Dating Incompatabilites, and Casual quickies"},"content":{"rendered":"

In response to an entry<\/a> in ‘s journal.<\/p>\n

He was nice and intelligent, but sometimes I find that two peoples’ personalities don’t exactly fit, though not for any particular reason. Am I the only one this happens to?<\/i><\/p>\n

Not by a loooong shot. This typefies the bulk of my dating experience out here. And it’s probably why a number of friends have [wisely] recommended that one do the vast majority of one’s dating from within the field of people you’ve met through friends. That seems to be how most successful relationships form. Its main flaw is that cultivating relationships (of the pants on sort) with no romantic intent to them is indirect. It can also lead to accusations of using people, but if you aren’t forming good connections along the way then you’re doing it wrong.<\/p>\n

As for the hookup thing, well, I think I’m probably the person you know best who has done similar things, and maybe I can offer some insight. I generally prefer not to expose my cohabitants to such, though I’m not totally rigid about that. Abram has seen it once or twice. For me, it’s mostly hormones and habit. Maybe it all started because I got a late start on masturbation (I was fooling around with someone else before fooling around solo, oddly enough).<\/p>\n

But, I usually hold out some hope for something more from my one night stands. Example: when first meeting the first two of my three past bf’s, well, pantslessness occurred before our first dinner together. I could easily see hormones, and even more so, habit, leading me even further down that road, but given my desire for greater emotional connection, that would seem to be foolish. My relationship with Josh was a definite anomaly in this pattern, and one I do not regret for a second.<\/p>\n

Frequently, going in to a hookup, one doesn’t know what will come of it. I’ve had a couple bf’s, a few regular, though non-romantic, sex partners, and a handful of friends where we afterwards kept our pants on, a large number of guys that I never see again, and some people that it’s uncomfortable to see again, oh yeah, and lots of sex, with a standard bell-curve-esque quality distribution. Playing the odds, any given trick is not likely to turn into something more, but stranger things have happened.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

In response to an entry in ‘s journal. He was nice and intelligent, but sometimes I find that two peoples’ personalities don’t exactly fit, though not for any particular reason. Am I the only one this happens to? Not by a loooong shot. This typefies the bulk of my dating experience out here. And it’s … Continue reading “Dating Incompatabilites, and Casual quickies”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-468","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/468","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=468"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/468\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=468"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=468"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=468"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}