So, I’ve heard that a certain relative of mine is a loudly anti-gay type person. In my upcoming travels, I will likely be in said relative’s city of residence, probably for an overnight. It’s $125 cheaper to take flight in a day earlier, I figured I could find a hotel for that amount. Mom encouraged me to stay with her. I said, quite staunchly and matter of factly, “No, _________ is about the last relative I’d want to stay with, because I’ve heard she’s virulently Catholic and anti-gay.” Mom was completely silent on the other end for 30 seconds. (It only occurred to me afterwards that mom is Catholic and might take offense.) I restarted conversation with “surely a room in a flop shack can be found for less than $125\/night.” <\/p>\n
So, aside from my complete lack of diplomacy, I kind of wonder if that’s the right tact to take. No, I don’t want to be preached at. And I have no real desire to be hosted by someone who’d be uncomfortable taking me in. Fuck “Don’t ask, don’t tell.” But at the same time, aversion will change nothing. If I refuse to talk to the homophobes in my own family, what makes me think I can do a damn thing to make a difference to a complete stranger?<\/p>\n
Then there’s the issue of third hand condemnation. Hmmmm. All sorts of moral quagmires on this one.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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