When [redacted] and I started dating, I said something pretty stupid. Well, I said alot of pretty stupid things, which is only natural for one has virtually no romantic experience. But one of the things I said was “well, we’re sleeping together, and we spend alot of time together, so I guess we’re boyfriends by observation.” This particularly peculiar and somewhat insensitive comment fell out of my mouth, because a) I really liked [redacted] and wanted to keep him around b) He had just asked me if we were boyfriends c) I didn’t feel ‘ready’ for that yet d) I was afraid he would go byebye if I said we weren’t. <\/p>\n
Years later, when not on the spot, I came up with a much better, much simpler response. “Not yet” The point is, what distinguishes a boyfriend from a friend? From a fbuddy? Since it matters so much to me to have someone there, what does it mean<\/b> to have someone there? <\/p>\n I couldn’t & still can’t come up with good answers. A point to ponder. Hrm.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" When [redacted] and I started dating, I said something pretty stupid. Well, I said alot of pretty stupid things, which is only natural for one has virtually no romantic experience. But one of the things I said was “well, we’re sleeping together, and we spend alot of time together, so I guess we’re boyfriends by … Continue reading “Relationships, definitions & stuff”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-122","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/122","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=122"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/122\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=122"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=122"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cheerfulchaotic.crazycrew.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=122"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}