So, none of my 3 relationships to date have started with me being gaga over the good looks of my potential significant other. I always bonded over other things. With Steve there was a geek culture compatability, (star trek, the internet before it was universal, rpg’s, other stuff). With Josh (easily the best looking of the three; hi, josh), there was an incredible intellectual match, plus much similarity in the particulars of our life situations, though we dealt with it differently. And with Mark, I appreciated his style, which he had in abundance, though on substance, we were not so compatible. (I don’t regret breaking up with him when I did, but I do regret being an ass about it. A common theme for all 3, now that I think about it). <\/p>\n
Now I’ve had engagements of varying lengths with people of various levels of attractiveness, ranging from “I’m sorry, did you say something? You seem to have taken my speech processing centers offline with your looks” to “that bag over your head makes you look so much sexier”. <\/p>\n
So, what matters in a relationship? And how important are looks to the equation? Does it vary by the person? The last one may be the most important question, and I’d say the answer is a definite yes. <\/p>\n
Do I shoot myself in the foot when dealing with the hot guys by either drowning them in drool or supressing the reflex so hard that I fail to show any interest? Maybe I just start seeing them as pretty and stop seeing them as people. That seems like a good explanation for how I sometimes feel about it. Ah, to have taken care of this shit when I was a teen, like most people do. Of course at that time I was mostly focused on appearances, as substance was so wildly out of my control. Hrm. Rambling. Done. Share your thoughts if you have ’em.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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