Pardon me whilst I enter preachy and verbose mode.<\/p>\n
I have a friend who never fails to help me keep attractiveness in perspective. How? He likes fat, really fat, hairy guys. All attempts to rationalize a compromise between this and the norm have failed. He’s different, he doesn’t find gym bunnies at all attractive, and never has. Why do I think this is so cool? He’s a living example of the complexity of sexual attraction. It isn’t a linear scale of hotness. It’s all about what turns one person on. And as we grow and change, our desires grow and change. <\/p>\n
When I was a closeted kid in high school, we went on a trip to Stratford Ontario, to see some Shakespeare. At the hotel, we got totally out of control (the chaperones didn’t chaperone). There was another set of students there from some Canadian high school. At some point in the evening, there was a girl, and I was using all my charm and persuasive ability to get her to come in to my hotel room, never expecting her to do so. She did, it felt all wrong, I semi-ignored her, and she left in short order (I still feel a little bad about it). When I have succeeded with the poster children of modern day, gay-culture-fetishized attractiveness (not often, but it’s happened), I sometimes feel a little like that dorky kid in hs who wanted to prove I was attractive by attracting someone that was _supposed_ to be attractive to me into his hotel room. My point being, are gym bunnies really what do it for you?<\/p>\n
The second thought relates to a point regarding body image read in “Eat More, Weigh Less”. Don’t let the title fool you, though the majority of its pages are devoted to low-caloric-density recipies, it’s about alot more than food. Think not of how your body looks. Think of how your body works. Can you climb trees? Swim? Defend yourself or others? Run fast? Take stairs 2 at a time? Turn cartwheels? Hit what you aim at? Dance? Fit through narrow openings? etc. The idea is to think of what you can do, instead of how you look. And furthermore, what you can do is something that you can more easily improve, no matter what your level of ability, than how you look. This positivism inspires confidence and self-worth, which, as a side note, probably does more to improve attractiveness than hours at the gym.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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